Lesson 15 Self-esteem. Social Anxiety If you do not learn to love myself (low self-esteem) I think a unit of acceptance by others and as a result took decisions wrong, because I'm renouncing my own needs and desires, "hitch" to evade my problem drugs, alcohol, sex, relationships sentimental destructive and all other negative performance, attracting for me the worst of which is to solitudes had neither myself. I am a person become introverted and this prevents me from engaging in relationships provocation total isolation. That fear is widening every day I feel just causes erroneous thoughts, emotional dislocation and insecurity. I turn into a disorderly person in my thoughts and in my actions. My introversion and my solitude are an impediment to live as a couple, because somehow I make the other person also sits alone. I feel guilty about doing things that do not show the best of myself and stopped making other knowing that I can make them. From the moment I intend to ask for help from people I really want to go or consulting a mental health professional (psychologist) and seek to amend my actions always trying to give the best that I have of myself. I will get by all means forgetting all actions that I did in the past and for which I am not satisfied, stop blaming myself for that and used the same energy into positive thinking that I am not going to incur the same errors. I will fight with all my strength to get out of this situation by ensuring my interests, focusing on the goals that I have proposed achieve in the future, in my values in my projects; cultivate a rich inner world. Social Anxiety The social anxiety is a disorder in which the suffering who spends too much shame to such an extent Flushing by fear that they cause the mere fact of speaking in front of people; prevents them from eating or drinking in front of other diners, make friends, etc. ., All this makes relationships with others are difficult and even they cause disruption in the workplace, education or any other activity that attempt to carry out. Symptoms that can lead this state, in addition to Flushing include excessive sweating, anxiety, inability to contact the other, anxiety, tremors, need to isolate itself, and so on. This uncontrolled fear can be caused by an excessive shyness that causes fear, lack of confidence in oneself, lack of self-esteem, fear of losing something, inferiority complex, excessive modesty, fear of failure, and so on. People who suffer from this problem especially afraid to be judged or observed by others; afraid to make fools of ourselves, or to suffer humiliation, fear not ultimately get the approval of others. In the most extreme cases can be a cause of falling into alcoholism, drugs or depression. In principle should go to a psychiatrist so that once he was diagnosed therapies indicate that in each case are necessary to alleviate the disorder. We must deal with a lot of courage to fear because it's the only way that a person has to overcome his fears: "grab the bull by the horns." In principle it would be very important to meditate carefully about what is the reason we produce the feeling of shame or fear and what are their consequences. To achieve this goal it is desirable that internalize and draw our source of all wisdom antidotes that balance our fears, our fears. This can be achieved through meditation daily. Also from the allegations, or reflections. Also talk to ourselves before the mirror, looking at us and talking with that person that we have reflected on the glass, making positive statements such as: I am the force! I am the value! I have no fear! I am a being like the others! I am a complex without being! and all statements or phrases that occur to bring us feel good with ourselves. Another way to work for success would be to write on paper how I want to be? and make a list: -- An be brave -- An initiative to be -- A complex without being -- An be decided -- One may not blushes ever, and so on. and every night before bed reading the same role and go adding all matters to do to increase our self-esteem. Finally, and this is very important, when we will enter into a situation where we run the risk of having shame, get nervous, and so on., We must make one or more deep breaths thinking that we will not feel any fear or shame ; Latter tends to give very good results